urgent and important


前輩跟我說:你知道嘛?這是一個選擇。

我明白。沒什麼需要或必要的;照顧家人,是一個個人選擇。

照顧家人,是一個個人選擇。

放洋自我放逐以後,看著外婆的身體日漸差勁,我知道她需要的是我,而不是一位看護或者一張按摩椅;縱使她連一個鐘點看護和一張按摩椅也沒有。

回港了,決意要盡全力讓她快樂;老人嘛,只要快樂,身體不會太壞。

生命中有許多事情都很趕急:趕車、趕買上車盤、趕覆誰誰誰的電郵、趕著爭取某些人的注意力、趕襯聖誕去旅行、趕襯年青做大事、趕靚、趕型、趕表演自己、趕成為話題...

而重要的事,往往沒有趕急的模樣。

重要的事情總是跟你說:不急,你先做好你想做的和要做的,不用理會我,不急的,不急的。

漸漸,那些趕急的事矇我們的雙眼,我們再看不見那些對生命重要的事。

讓外婆快樂,對我來說,是一件重要的事。

跟外婆去看醫生,長途跋涉,上樓梯下樓梯,扶手電梯對手腳不靈光的他們而言充滿難度,城市網絡變越來越複雜......我從她的角度看見認識這個城市,心裡明白,如果沒有一位年青的在旁,一位行動不便的老人根本無法獨自完成那對我們而言「只不過」一小時的路程。

外婆,不用擔心我,我明白重要和趕急的分別。

這是我的個人選擇。

能夠帶你去看醫生,是我的榮幸。

40 comments:

Wythe said...

that's love. :))

ching yeung said...

every second with ur loved ones counts.

Sara Kan said...

講得好好!!!我睇到拍曬手啦真係

CompuStar said...

我近來也意識到重要的事情

RX said...

芝, good girl!

fionman said...

要比個like呢篇blog

Anonymous said...

g,
加油!

Anonymous said...

gooooood!!!

Anonymous said...

珍惜相處的時光=]

Yuen said...

係我地眼中所有好易既事對佢地黎講都係好難

520 said...

G,take care of your loved one, also take care of yourself, becoz they love you too:)

Joe Sze said...

唔洗講,做得好,無後顧的需要。

Joshua said...

留下吧, 如果這是你的選擇. ^^

JM said...

令我想起那些整日轉發甚麼珍惜和感思的powerpoint電郵的人,下次再收到該類郵件,我會把卓小姐這段網誌傳給他們.

Anonymous said...

LIKE X100000000
每次睇你寫與外婆的事,都會很心同感受!
近年都帶我的外婆覆診,
她都會塞錢俾我,我都說不用,,
她說,就算佢俾錢,都冇其他人帶佢去,,
令我很心痛,
所以之後我就算要請假都會陪佢!

好多時,仔女只會俾錢老人家就當付左責任,
但其實只要抽小小時間,傾下,了解佢既需要,
有時陪佢行街,買佢需要既野(因為佢唔識字,要同佢睇),佢已經好開心!!
她要的是陪伴 而不是六百塊!!

Anonymous said...

my grandma passed away 12 years ago and last nite i dreamed of her... and i cried like a baby in the middle of the night... yes, i definitely regreted not putting in more effort and love on her... how could i forget her kindness throughout the time she brought me up... G, take care and have a good time with your grandma in HK.

La vida es hermosa said...

g, 我超級感動!

ling said...

哭了....

4月時...我最疼愛的公公突然走了...

那天婆婆怎也不去見他最後一面...
到現在, 5個月了...我沒有去看過婆婆
也許我仍在意她那天沒去見公公...

但...
gi,
我要跟你一樣...
要"讓外婆快樂"
好好珍惜重要的...

Anonymous said...

YES, 既然 <>這麼重要, 就應留在她身邊, 讓她剩下來的日子可以開開心心 :D

KAIGORE AS ABOVE I WROTE TO G said...

La vida es hermosa ,

婆婆總有她的理由, 嘗試理解及接受, 一定好過...

只有愛才能化解嫌隙 :)

KAIGORE said...

SORRY SHOULD BE TO LING NOT HERMOSA

b. said...

g...
我也放洋數年了, 我想也是時候回去照顧日漸年老的媽媽.

謝謝妳 令我有所啟發

janice said...

love you* dearest*

janice said...

love you* dearest*

Brenda said...

數年前一位工作上的前輩分享她對工作項目的分級方法:Urgent and Important、Urgent but not Important、Important but not Urgent 及 Neither Important Nor Urgent。小妹當時只明白第一級和最後一級的定義;今天閱過卓韻芝的這一篇,終於懂得把四個級別定義了。

yiuyiu said...

早前伯父突然過身, 而家家裡只有我同我阿麻兩個人住,照顧她就是我現在的責任

"跟外婆去看醫生,長途跋涉,上樓梯下樓梯,扶手電梯對手腳不靈光的他們而言充滿難度,城市網絡變越來越複雜......我從她的角度看見認識這個城市,心裡明白,如果沒有一位年青的在旁,一位行動不便的老人根本無法獨自完成那對我們而言「只不過」一小時的路程。" 理解到極點.....

有時候其實老人家要求不高, 下班後回家跟她講講八掛新聞, 買d好野佢食下, 佢已經好開心!

Anonymous said...

remember to leave more time to your grandmum...not just hanging around when you come back to HK!

Anonymous said...

Welcome back to hong kong!

JennieC said...

浮生路是個人選擇 她是妳的黑點這卻是命中注定. May God bless 妳兩婆孫 :)

Anonymous said...

that's very touching!

Anonymous said...

salute to you!!!

winnie said...

就係鐘意你寫既!like!!^^

jam said...

這些道理聽過十萬八千篇,我明白但未曾做到,恭喜你真的願意放棄趕急的換取重要的事,欣賞你!

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this beautiful article... I read it twice and I weeped twice.

You are describing what I am going through. Unfortunately I am not able to do the right thing like you did.

I went to the US for college 17 years ago. Now my husband is here, my house is here, my cat is here, my business + clients are here, my bank accounts are here. My life is here. But my mom is over there.

I don't even find enough time to go home to Hong Kong. Every year (or more), I only go to Hong Kong for a week.

My dad passed away many years ago. Mom's getting old all by herself. And my mom tells me exactly what you said: 不急,你先做好你想做的和要做的,不用理會我,不急的,不急的。

I wish I can do what you did.

michylcherele said...

I applaud you. As much as it is responsibility, this is also call love. I choose to return home for exactly the same reason.

I sincerely hope that you will find yourself having made the right decision, one that you are proud of when you look back in a couple of years.

karina said...

thank you, this such a good reminder :')
而重要的事,往往沒有趕急的模樣。

重要的事情總是跟你說:不急,你先做好你想做的和要做的,不用理會我,不急的,不急的。

漸漸,那些趕急的事矇我們的雙眼,我們再看不見那些對生命重要的事。

so true so true

I will learn from you...

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