前輩跟我說:你知道嘛?這是一個選擇。
我明白。沒什麼需要或必要的;照顧家人,是一個個人選擇。
照顧家人,是一個個人選擇。
放洋自我放逐以後,看著外婆的身體日漸差勁,我知道她需要的是我,而不是一位看護或者一張按摩椅;縱使她連一個鐘點看護和一張按摩椅也沒有。
回港了,決意要盡全力讓她快樂;老人嘛,只要快樂,身體不會太壞。
生命中有許多事情都很趕急:趕車、趕買上車盤、趕覆誰誰誰的電郵、趕著爭取某些人的注意力、趕襯聖誕去旅行、趕襯年青做大事、趕靚、趕型、趕表演自己、趕成為話題...
而重要的事,往往沒有趕急的模樣。
重要的事情總是跟你說:不急,你先做好你想做的和要做的,不用理會我,不急的,不急的。
漸漸,那些趕急的事矇我們的雙眼,我們再看不見那些對生命重要的事。
讓外婆快樂,對我來說,是一件重要的事。
跟外婆去看醫生,長途跋涉,上樓梯下樓梯,扶手電梯對手腳不靈光的他們而言充滿難度,城市網絡變越來越複雜......我從她的角度看見認識這個城市,心裡明白,如果沒有一位年青的在旁,一位行動不便的老人根本無法獨自完成那對我們而言「只不過」一小時的路程。
外婆,不用擔心我,我明白重要和趕急的分別。
這是我的個人選擇。
能夠帶你去看醫生,是我的榮幸。
40 comments:
that's love. :))
every second with ur loved ones counts.
講得好好!!!我睇到拍曬手啦真係
我近來也意識到重要的事情
芝, good girl!
要比個like呢篇blog
g,
加油!
gooooood!!!
珍惜相處的時光=]
係我地眼中所有好易既事對佢地黎講都係好難
G,take care of your loved one, also take care of yourself, becoz they love you too:)
唔洗講,做得好,無後顧的需要。
留下吧, 如果這是你的選擇. ^^
令我想起那些整日轉發甚麼珍惜和感思的powerpoint電郵的人,下次再收到該類郵件,我會把卓小姐這段網誌傳給他們.
LIKE X100000000
每次睇你寫與外婆的事,都會很心同感受!
近年都帶我的外婆覆診,
她都會塞錢俾我,我都說不用,,
她說,就算佢俾錢,都冇其他人帶佢去,,
令我很心痛,
所以之後我就算要請假都會陪佢!
好多時,仔女只會俾錢老人家就當付左責任,
但其實只要抽小小時間,傾下,了解佢既需要,
有時陪佢行街,買佢需要既野(因為佢唔識字,要同佢睇),佢已經好開心!!
她要的是陪伴 而不是六百塊!!
my grandma passed away 12 years ago and last nite i dreamed of her... and i cried like a baby in the middle of the night... yes, i definitely regreted not putting in more effort and love on her... how could i forget her kindness throughout the time she brought me up... G, take care and have a good time with your grandma in HK.
g, 我超級感動!
哭了....
4月時...我最疼愛的公公突然走了...
那天婆婆怎也不去見他最後一面...
到現在, 5個月了...我沒有去看過婆婆
也許我仍在意她那天沒去見公公...
但...
gi,
我要跟你一樣...
要"讓外婆快樂"
好好珍惜重要的...
YES, 既然 <>這麼重要, 就應留在她身邊, 讓她剩下來的日子可以開開心心 :D
La vida es hermosa ,
婆婆總有她的理由, 嘗試理解及接受, 一定好過...
只有愛才能化解嫌隙 :)
SORRY SHOULD BE TO LING NOT HERMOSA
g...
我也放洋數年了, 我想也是時候回去照顧日漸年老的媽媽.
謝謝妳 令我有所啟發
love you* dearest*
love you* dearest*
數年前一位工作上的前輩分享她對工作項目的分級方法:Urgent and Important、Urgent but not Important、Important but not Urgent 及 Neither Important Nor Urgent。小妹當時只明白第一級和最後一級的定義;今天閱過卓韻芝的這一篇,終於懂得把四個級別定義了。
早前伯父突然過身, 而家家裡只有我同我阿麻兩個人住,照顧她就是我現在的責任
"跟外婆去看醫生,長途跋涉,上樓梯下樓梯,扶手電梯對手腳不靈光的他們而言充滿難度,城市網絡變越來越複雜......我從她的角度看見認識這個城市,心裡明白,如果沒有一位年青的在旁,一位行動不便的老人根本無法獨自完成那對我們而言「只不過」一小時的路程。" 理解到極點.....
有時候其實老人家要求不高, 下班後回家跟她講講八掛新聞, 買d好野佢食下, 佢已經好開心!
remember to leave more time to your grandmum...not just hanging around when you come back to HK!
Welcome back to hong kong!
浮生路是個人選擇 她是妳的黑點這卻是命中注定. May God bless 妳兩婆孫 :)
that's very touching!
salute to you!!!
就係鐘意你寫既!like!!^^
這些道理聽過十萬八千篇,我明白但未曾做到,恭喜你真的願意放棄趕急的換取重要的事,欣賞你!
Thanks for this beautiful article... I read it twice and I weeped twice.
You are describing what I am going through. Unfortunately I am not able to do the right thing like you did.
I went to the US for college 17 years ago. Now my husband is here, my house is here, my cat is here, my business + clients are here, my bank accounts are here. My life is here. But my mom is over there.
I don't even find enough time to go home to Hong Kong. Every year (or more), I only go to Hong Kong for a week.
My dad passed away many years ago. Mom's getting old all by herself. And my mom tells me exactly what you said: 不急,你先做好你想做的和要做的,不用理會我,不急的,不急的。
I wish I can do what you did.
I applaud you. As much as it is responsibility, this is also call love. I choose to return home for exactly the same reason.
I sincerely hope that you will find yourself having made the right decision, one that you are proud of when you look back in a couple of years.
thank you, this such a good reminder :')
而重要的事,往往沒有趕急的模樣。
重要的事情總是跟你說:不急,你先做好你想做的和要做的,不用理會我,不急的,不急的。
漸漸,那些趕急的事矇我們的雙眼,我們再看不見那些對生命重要的事。
so true so true
I will learn from you...
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